Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Friends & benefits

From A Softer World comics:

Has a friends with benefits scenario ever worked for you?  Is it just like dating someone you know you have no potential long-term future with? If so, that might describe all my past relationships... 

I've definitely dated guys I didn't even like as friends. What's that called?  Sad?

"S that D. Shut it down. Dealbreaker."

My friends and I like to joke about relationship deal-breakers. Our conversations go something like:

Me: "He wore cargo shorts."
Friend: "OMG. Deal-breaker!"
Me: "LOL"

We got it from 30 Rock. Love that show. Love Liz Lemon.  I think the older I get the more I become like her.

These are good ideas for Tumblr blogs

How about some Album Tacos?

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Oh hai...

Haven't updated in almost two weeks.  Oops.

Here's a video of the band Times New Viking lip-syncing to Yo La Tengo's "Nothing To Lose."

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Cougar expert

I know I'm only 31, but I think I can learn a lot from this chick.

More Cougar Channel videos.


img src: Printmatic
Blueprint is an emcee/producer/rapper from Columbus, Ohio.  I know him from his work with the slightly more famous RJD2, and was featured on his amazing debut album "Deadringer."

What? You never heard of RJD2?  He's the guy who wrote the theme song to Mad Men.

Anyway, I don't know how I came across Blueprint's blog, Printmatic, but I've been following it for a while now. He talks a lot about music, drinking (or not drinking), partying and relationships.  His writing cracks me up and I feel like I could hang out with this guy and have a great time.

One of my favorite entries is Top Ten Reasons Why 21-23 Year Old Women Suck, which includes such delightful insights as "They can’t handle their liquor" and "They don’t pay for shit." Read the rest.

Other Blueprint gems:

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Gay dating and Grindr

I love Brian Safi's That's Gay segment on the show Infomania. I was cracking up when Brian learns about Grindr, an iPhone app made specifically for gay hook-ups.

I heard about Grindr through Ragan Fox, who talked about it during one of his podcasts Fox And The City.  Ragan's Summer Fling (a.k.a. Seasonal Top) Questionnaire asks questions like, "According to Grindr, how many feet away are you?"

Someone pointed out that Grindr would never work for straight people.  No right-minded woman would ever want her location advertised on a dating website.  Stalker alert!

Monday, August 23, 2010

Dating oneself.

Spoken word by Poetri on HBO's 'Def Poetry'.

By the way, Mos Def is kinda hot.


Just when I start to get bored with OkCupid, I get a message like this and love it and hate it all over again.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Fuck that ghost.

This flowchart is pretty amazing.  It comes from an advice column on This Morning News when someone asked if it's okay to date his brother’s wife’s cousin.

click on it for high resolution

Thanks, A.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

In the business of love, or lack thereof.

Why You'll Never Find Real Love Online from Marie Claire is a Q & A with a psychologist who used to work for Match.com, who lost his belief in the system when he realized he "hated the way we overpromised and underdelivered."

My favorite quote:
Sexual compatibility is a keystone to a relationship's long-term success, and it requires three things: a similar emotional approach (positive, friendly, and fun, or dark and mysterious); a similar activity level (fast and active, or slow and mellow); and a complementary power dynamic (strong, confident, and powerful, or gentle and submissive). These qualities often line up with what you want interpersonally, too.

via @vaughanbell via @jonahlehrer

Hey, man. (a public service announcement)

Look, if you have a profile on a free online dating website, you are putting yourself out there to be critiqued.  That's the whole point, right?  To judge others and be judged?

I have a genuine dating profile up at OkCupid and have been genuinely looking for men on there for several months.  I'm not ashamed about it.  Lots of people do online dating these days.  I haven't actually met anyone yet, but only because I happen to be very picky.

I created OkStoopid because I just got tired of emailing screenshots to my girlfriends all the time.  The objective of this blog is to point out the sometimes ridiculous experience of online dating and being single and over 30.  I'm not out to humiliate anyone.

I made the blog public (technically) to make it easier for my friends to read.  However, I don't actively advertise it's existence.  As far as I know, only 5 people read this blog regularly, most of them are real life friends of mine, and most of them are single, and most of them have experience with online dating also.

I understand that it's not 'fair' to post incriminating information about guys who contact me or my friends on OkCupid on a (technically) public blog. I haven't been very careful about this because I assumed my readership was so small.

 It has recently come to my attention that I should be more discreet on this blog, as Google searches make me instantly findable.  From now on I will censor both usernames and photos of anyone I plan to discuss/critique so that they're completely unrecognizable.  It will take me a few days to go through and fix all the past entries, so if you're browsing the archives, there are several missing entries that will be reposted later.

I wanted to apologize to the few guys who found their likeness posted on here.  (More than one!  What the hell!)  I'm still not sure how you found it, and have yet to completely rule out honest-to-god internet stalking, for which you should well be ashamed. But perhaps it's just "the power of social networking," as someone else put it. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt, and with that, my apologies.

Monday, August 16, 2010

To the cool dudes who live very far away

Thanks for your message, cool long-distance dude.  Your compliment from far away made me smile.

I probably won't write back, but I still appreciate you.  It's the thought that counts.

Maybe I showed up in your match results when you expanded your search to include women "everywhere." We probably have a lot in common except for our time zone.

It means something that you liked my profile enough to send a message, even if we live a few thousand miles apart and will never ever meet.

It reminds me that there are actually cool dudes out there who might be into me.  Kinda hoping for a cool dude who lives in the same town, but then again, you're probably thinking the same thing about me.

Hats off to you, cool long distance dudes, you will not be forgotten.

Saturday, August 14, 2010

All time top five.

This week, NPR's All Songs Considered blog asks What's Your Most Played Song on your computer?

Here's my top five according to number of iTunes plays.  I couldn't stop at just one!

#1.  "Haiti" by Arcade Fire

#2. "Showroom Dummies (Cha Cha Cha)" by Senor Coconut. (no idea why)

#3. "Rock My Boat (feat. Mia Doi Todd)" by Dntel

#4. "Girl" by Beck.
I've never seen this video before, but I love it!  I makes me want to hang out with Beck in LA.  I always wondered what the correct words to the chorus are.  I found several interpretations online: "Hey, My cyanide Girl."  "Hey, my summer girl."  "Hey, my sun-eyed girl."  What do you think?

#5 (tie)  "Neon Syrup for the Cemetary Sisters" by Black Moth Super Rainbow.  Love this band!!

...and "Til The End of Time" by Devotchka

Friday, August 13, 2010

My dick goes to yoga.

Mickey Avalon's "My Dick" gets stuck in my head on multiple occasions. The lyrics are hilarious.

The song also features Andre Legacy & Dirt Nasty (yep, that's Simon Rex from Mtv)

Monday, August 9, 2010

Men and Facebook

I just read* a post on the blog Sex In The Digital City called:
7 Ways Facebook Can Show That He's Just Not Into You.  Among these,
If he doesn’t comment back to you when you post cute and witty comments and responses on his wall or status updates – HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
Really?  I'm confused.  Didn't we agree that real men don't use Facebook?

* via Gala Darling

Stupid Cupid

I always loved this design from Threadless
Stupid Cupid by Budi Satria Kwan  

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Who is this purple man?

I pretty much ignore PlentyofFish, but I received this gem in my inbox today:

Clearly this man is not attractive. It makes me wonder what's wrong with him. Is he old and fat? Short and bald? Is he missing body parts? Is he a ginger? I kinda wonder if he has an eye patch and a flipper for a hand.

He sounds bitter. It's as if other women have given him a hard time about not having a profile picture, and now he's all up-front about it and calling me shallow.

Is it really so shallow to prefer attractive men? Look, I'm a reasonably attractive lady. If I wanted to date ugly guys, I wouldn't need an online dating site.

Out of curiosity, I clicked over to this guys profile and right away it says:
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm 30 yrs old. I'm not a fake person or some guy trying to make u go and look at his website. I'm 100% real.
Him saying that he's 100% real makes me think he's not real.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Best of Craigslist > Vancouver, BC > Penis Measuring

Originally Posted: Tue, 2 Mar 18:01 PST

Penis Measuring

Date: 2010-03-02, 6:01PM PST

A friend of mine and I have been having a long-standing argument about whose penis is larger. We've tried having our girlfriends confirm to the other the exact size, but neither one of us buy it. I don't want to see his penis and he doesn't want to see mine. I don't want my girlfriend looking at his penis and he doesn't was his looking at mine.

So... We just need a girl to look at both of our penises (individually) and then to both of our faces say which one is bigger. We can't pay much. $50.
  • Location: Vancouver
  • it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests
  • Compensation: $50
PostingID: 1625829503

I really like what she's doing here.

This blog rules: http://hownottodateonline.com/

She's kinda doing what I'm trying to do with OkStoopid, only way better.

Hide your kids, Hide your wife

This silly meme remix has been stuck in my head the past several days. The Gregory Brothers are the same guys behind Auto-tune the News.

Fucking genius.

NPR just published a great story about Antoine Dodson and the meme his interview generated.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Click on my face and tell me that you love me.

"I Heart You Online" by the comedy music duo Rocky and Balls

These girls are going viral.  Watch more fun videos on their Youtube page.

Thanks, N!

Monday, August 2, 2010

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